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Prayer for the eternal repose of the soul of my friend-Teddy

Lord Jesus Christ,
by your own three days in the tomb,
you hallowed the graves of all who believe in you
and so made the grave a sign of hope
that promises resurrection
even as it claims our mortal bodies.

Grant that our brother, Teddy, may sleep here in peace
until you awaken him to glory,
for you are the resurrection and the life.
Then he will see you face to face
and in your light will see the light
and know the splendor of God,
for you live and reign forever and ever.

Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Amen.
“Memory is the only paradise out of which we cannot be driven away.”-Johann Paul Friedrich Richter


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Don’t Allow Your Life To Be Controlled By These 5 Things

“Do you allow yourself to be controlled by coffee? Yes I did. But, I don’t allow my life to be controlled by these 5 things”

 

Don’t Allow Your Life To Be Controlled By These 5 Things
1. Your Past
2. Other Peoples Opinions
3. Limited Beliefs
4. Relationships
5. Money

A Quote to live by:

1. Your Past-“When you hold on to your history you do so at the expense of your destiny.” ~ T. D. Jakes

2. Other Peoples Opinions-Care about people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner.– Lao Tzu

3. Limited Beliefs-The Second You Limit Yourself Is The Second You Fail

4. Relationships-develop enough mental strength that you get to a point where you don’t need others to make you happy.

5. Money-“Take a better stand. Put money in my mom’s hand. Get my daughter this college plan, so she don’t need no man.”
— Biggie

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Speaker: Josiah Ruff

1. Your Past-Release that weight from your back so you can be free.

 Don’t allow events of the past, which are now gone, to ruin this moment, which is perfect – this moment which is now to enjoy, which is ready for you to LIVE FULLY.

 Your past does not equal your future.“When you hold on to your history you do so at the expense of your destiny.” ~ T. D. Jakes

2. Other Peoples Opinions-Do not allow other people’s opinions and judgements to control the direction of your life.

 The need to fit in and feel wanted can cause you to travel down paths you don’t want to travel. People pleasing is a curse that should be avoided at all costs.

 Before you do anything, ask yourself:
 Am I doing this because I want to do it?… or because of my fear of judgement from others if I don’t do it.

3. Limited Beliefs- Do not allow your life to be controlled by your own limited beliefs.

 NOW, a warning with this one. These beliefs may be conscious, but more than likely they will be unconscious. 

They may be unconscious limitations that have been conditioned from a young age and throughout your entire life, by listening to those around you who never reached for their own dream.

 When you have nothing inside holding you back, there is nothing outside that can hold you back either. Your entire life will change the very instant you decide to change your mindset. The instant you decide to see everything as a gift. 

When you DECIDE to see every circumstance and challenge as a blessing rather than a curse. When you become conscious to the fact that everything is as it should be, and fighting WHAT IS, is insane.

4. Relationships-Relationships. 

A touchy subject. 

But, if you are always needing another to be happy, to feel complete, then you are always one moment away from a breakdown if that person leaves, or unhappiness if the relationship is not going well.

I am not suggesting to avoid relationships. There is no force on this earth greater than LOVE and connection. 

I am talking about those who can’t LIVE if they aren’t in a relationship. Those who will be with just about anyone, including all the wrong ones, just to avoid spending a moment being single.

What I AM saying, is to develop enough mental strength that you get to a point where you don’t need others to make you happy.

You are just as happy being alone, as you are in a relationship.

5. Money-This is what controls the majority of humans on the planet. Can you guess what it is?
…MONEY!

This does not mean you shouldn’t want abundance. It doesn’t mean money is evil. You know as well as I do what great things you can do, and people you can help with money. 

What this means is, do not allow your decisions to be controlled by money.

If you are choosing something ONLY on the factor of how much money is involved, you’ve just made the wrong decision.

 What you will find, is that when you follow your heart, and you lead with your intention to SERVE others, to give your best to others – EVERY SINGLE TIME, when you follow your intuition and truly GIVE from your soul – then, the money will come, and it will come in far greater amounts than if you simply chase money for the sake of chasing money.

So, challenge yourself to live the life you want to live. Free from being controlled by ANYTHING.

 Find your freedom.
 LIVE FULLY!

 


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If we were having a coffee, I’d be holding mine tightly in my hands for warmth

Hello, if we were having a coffee, I’d be holding mine tightly in my hands for warmth. I am imagining and got scared after someone shadow on the side of my eye and thought there was someone loitering outside….

Maybe my memory is just going haywire. The last few weeks I’ve been thinking that I really need to make notes for these posts and I know for certain that something worth talking/thinking about what happened on Monday (Feb 26, 2018).  I just can’t remember what it was. Looking back, I’m not sure that it was one of the most exciting weeks.  I think I did something fun, It’s was my 22nd Wedding Anniversary I did spend my whole day with my wife, but I can’t remember that either, I wish I did forget what happen on that day, a friend of mine told me that he will be on leave on February 28 but he takes on leave on February 26 it was an unfortunate day for the family of my friend he passed away and maybe that’s the reason, that I’ve been very sensitive on my relations with my family and friends.


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External validation doesn’t pay off, enjoying the process does.

In my 40s, I was always waiting for my big break. I used to see others’ success and was convinced (without a doubt) that that made them happy. Now, I feel myself running away from hype and hustle. I feel strong standing on the ground underneath me.
I read somewhere in the web, on how to be stayed motivated, inspired and content while painting the same type of art over and over. The painter said that the process of painting had to be meaningful. The actual daily experience was a priority; not the selling or sharing or finishing. It’s something that has stuck with me and when I feel a restlessness, I think back to that insight.
Dana Tanamachi, says “Live a quiet life and work with your hands” and this is something that I’ve come to understand. In this very quiet and humbling phase of my life, I look back to my 20’s and remember my thirst for recognition. I feel content looking into my 30’s with a desire to help people and just enjoying the process.
I don’t have everything figured out but I knew I needed to share this. While I’m still learning, understanding and failing myself, I hope that you feel a little less alone after reading this.
And to my friend (Teddy Delos Santos) – who just passed away – I hope you know that you’re one of the few people on earth that reminded me of how smart and strong I am. I will constantly think back to your words of encouragement after I landed on my current job. You said, “Your work ethic, ability and attitude are the things that got you to this point.”


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Another Good Deed Goes Noticed — notquiteold

I stopped for gas a few days ago at one of the busiest gas stations near my home. So, yes, it was a Cumberland Farms. I don’t really know if these convenience stores exist all over the country or just in New England, but if you aren’t familiar with Cumby’s, let me just say that […]

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The Benefit Of The Doubt — notquiteold

When you give people the benefit of the doubt, you automatically assume that they are nice people trying their best. And your anger dissipates.

And it’s so nice not to be angry.

When you assign benevolent motives to people instead of assuming unpleasant motives, the world itself becomes a more benevolent place.

I recently heard someone I love very much say, “At my age, I am not afraid to say what I think. I’ve earned the right to express my opinion.” And I agree. Except. At my age, I expect civility, kindness, and respect. If your comment is needlessly hurtful or disrespectful – even in the smallest […]

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Changing Targets : Reasonable Goals — 83 Unsung Heroes

In some instances, we might not know how things will turn out, but the ground work is there. We can see the first step to our target and it’s obvious and apparent and unquestionable. However, it doesn’t look like we expected it to look and takes us somewhere different, so we change it or take it out of the equation rather than run with it to see what happens.

A project that I’ve recently been managing at work is around process efficiency. One tranche of “efficiency” is speed, in that if we can do a process faster with at least the same degree of accuracy, it will be better. So we set about the task of mapping how long the […]

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We Rise by Uplifting Others — Redefined Love

What is the risk you are willing to take to have a more filling life? Are you willing to let a certain crowd go? are you willing to learn to allow yourself to be more positive? What are you willing to do? I challenge you to find a way to uplift the people around you and that includes you. Trust me it feels so good to uplift others as much as it feels good to be uplifted.

Uplifting people can you make you feel after. Have you uplifted someone today?

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Problems to Expect When You Try to Achieve Your Goals

Author: Jaime Menor

 Study how water flows in a valley stream, smoothly and freely between the rocks. Also learn from holy books and wise people. Everything – even mountains, rivers, plants and trees – should be your teacher. Morihei Ueshiba

Every person may not be fully aware that all successful people have experienced problems that, at more than one time, demotivated them enough to decide to quit. Hindrances are inevitable in every successful person’s life, so you should always expect several to come your way as you try to achieve your goals. Here are some of the things to expect soon.

Financial Setbacks

Money is often the main problem that hinders people from achieving their dreams. There are challenges that arise that require a lot of financial capital or support. The problem for most individuals is that they can’t seem to find the proper source to adequately maintain their needs for a variety of projects. Politicians are one of the most common people who need financial support all the time to fund their programs, campaigns and donations.

The main idea is to learn how to wait for the right opportunity, to avoid exhausting your resources too soon and unwisely. It is important to consider other things that will help you survive for the long term. If you’re going into business, you should prepare for the startup capital, as well as operational expenses to support the company until it is ready to stand independently. Make sure you plan and review everything before investing.

Problems with People

Even though you may already be ready for different types of challenges at different times, others may not be as cooperative or as capable as you. Each person has unique needs and aspirations, so as a leader, you need to focus on these first to gain their interest and help. People who are selfish or unwilling to work with you can have traits that can cause the company to collapse. Some of the negative characteristics include dishonesty, being rebellious and laziness. All these can hinder your progress and keep you from reaching your goals.

It is important to develop leadership skills, so that you can adequately encourage and motivate all your people to help you reach certain objectives. Give them missions and functions that best suit their own strengths and capabilities. Understand and get to know other people better so that you can expand the network fully, opening more opportunities in the process. Talk to other successful individuals and learn from their own experience, mistakes and personal techniques. These people usually are more than willing to share their wisdom with you.

Problems with Nature

The forces of nature are truly inevitable so you always need to have a second or third backup plan ready for these. Some of the things to expect are bad weather, accidents, disease, economic crisis, death, theft, fraud, scandals and change in the system or government. Try to create plans and objectives that are flexible. You can set deadlines for your projects, but make sure that you still have other ways around if the unstoppable occurs.

Natural forces are part of life so you will encounter these as long as you have goals. Even those without goals need to deal with these aspects. The most important thing is that you do not lose steam and stay motivated and fired up to reach your goals, no matter the cost. Find alternatives and other people who can help you deal and cope during setbacks. Learn from your experience and stay prepared for repeat incidents.

Quotes to live by:

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, you shall begin it well and serenely-  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Never give up; for even rivers someday wash dams away.-Arthur Golden


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Hi, if we were having a coffee this week I think I’d still get a hot one

Hi, if we were having a coffee this week I think I’d still get a hot one rather than an iced one despite the nice weather. I can’t help but feel that iced coffees are just as excuse not give you as much milk. Monday morning this week started tremendously well. I woke up at […]

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