Do you ever wish that the writer of the book you just read or the movie you saw would have consulted you before she decided on that particular ending? I do. Sometimes it is simply historical reality that makes people or characters act the way they act. But I see so many occasions where there […]
We should regret our mistakes and learn from them, but never carry them forward into the future with us.” “It was one thing to make a mistake; it was another thing to keep making it. I knew what happened when you let yourself get close to someone when you started to believe they liked or loved you: you’d be disappointed.
From beginning to end, God’s Word points out in painful detail the mistakes made by its characters. It was a living proof that the Bible is not a written record of perfect people (except for Jesus).
Peter denied knowing Jesus (Mt. 26:69-75). Solomon started out well but turned from God for a time (1 Ki. 3:5-9;11:1-43). Adam and Eve failed to obey God’s specific restrictions (Gen. 2:15-17; 3:1-7). Abram lied about his relationship to Sarai (Gen. 12:10-20). Moses grew angry and struck the rock in disobedience to God (Num. 20:7-12). David committed adultery and murder (2 Sam. 11-12). The Bible’s honest portrayal of the troubles that its characters brought upon themselves and others reminds me of what humorist Sam Levenson once said: “You must learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t possibly live long enough to make them all yourself.” For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.-James 3:2
My excuses for having a mistake:
“That ‘reason is candid,’ I also admit (that my observation is free from bias, prejudice, or malice that I made a general statement that has a negative for many-or it just my excuses for being a candid observer); and if I am blundering in making mistakes, I believe someone will have the goodness to acknowledge that I am candid in retracting them again when they are so pointed out to me that I was or I wasn’t able to see them. Then I found another excuse on this quote by Stephen Hawking, “One of the basic rules of the universe is that nothing is perfect. Perfection simply doesn’t exist…..Without imperfection, neither you nor I would exist” and Dave Sim quote “There is nothing wrong with making mistakes, but one should always make new ones. Repeating mistake is a hallmark of dim consciousness.”
Then I have to grasp the lessons:
It is for our instruction that the Bible records the sinful actions of many of its key figures. The old saying “Those who don’t learn from history are bound to repeat it” is true. As we see the errors made by biblical characters, we can ask the Lord to protect us from making similar mistakes.
The notion that we are created by our choices is really intriguing, Then this is the reality of life that the millennials are facing: “Our identity becomes that which we project on our social media accounts, we constantly share what we like and what we dislike but we never seem to sit down and reflect on what it is that we truly like and dislike, what makes us happy and unhappy in life”
A short opinion post touching on the idea of the sense of self, a loss of identity and the reasons behind choice.
Today I’m taking a break from physics to write on an idea somewhat linked to psychology, which of late I am getting more and more interested in thinking about. However, it is also, as all nonfactual posts are, heavily opinion based, so I apologize if I cause any offense. The idea I briefly want to talk about today is the idea of the self and that of identity. What is it that makes us inherently who we are, what defines our identity, and how is it that we project this identity outwards towards others. Read more at this link: A Loss of Identity — Rationalising The Universe
Author Jaime Menor Jr.
Have you watched The Movie “LIMITLESS” it’s about a writer who takes an experimental drug that allows him to use 100 percent of his brain, with his heightened brain activity, all of his senses become tuned in to everything in his surrounding environment, he can recall everything he has seen and heard, he can learn exponentially faster, and he is able to outsmart and out-talk people. That’s what that movie goes well my question is “Can one person really Improve his/her Personal Life by Looking at the Entire Picture?” Hmmm!!! Sounds like a “Birds Eye View” for me– but what is bird’s-eye view? Wikipedia defines it as an elevated view of an object from above, with a perspective as though the observer were a bird, often used in the making of blueprints, floor plans, and maps. Well, that means to improve your personal life you have to consider yourself as a whole pie. You have to review your liability, behaviors, actions, emotional responses, and overall standard of living. Once you review the details, you will find it easier to move ahead and make the necessary changes. To get started begin with a checklist.
How are your behaviors?
What are your behaviors? Do you engage in activities that lead toward negative consequences? Do you drink heavily? Do you drug? Do you smoke? Do you associate with the wrong people?
Once you write down your behaviors that pull down consider the details. If you engage in activities that lead toward negative consequences, likely you are not looking at the whole pie. Rather you may act before you speak or do something. What you need to do is to consider consequences before you speak or act. If you drink heavily, perhaps you have an alcohol problem. There is nothing wrong with admitting you have a problem. You will need to seek help. There is nothing wrong with seeking help. If you have a drug problem, you will need to apply the same rules mentioned when handling alcoholism. If you smoke, you want to consider ways to stop. You will need willpower and the goal to quit. If you associate with the wrong people, you will need to evaluate your situation. What do these people bring to your table? Do they give or take from you?
How do you handle problems?
Every day there is some kind of a problem that has to be thought out and decided what to do about the issue. What are some things that you can go to help? You should always think out the problem before you make a decision on the issue. You will make healthier decisions by looking at the entire picture. If the problem is too big for you to handle alone, ask for help. Talk with friends, family, or experts.
How about paying bills:
Do you pay bills on time? Paying bills is a major problem that leads to many hassles. If you pay your bills on time, however, you can reduce some of these hassles. Failing to pay bills only builds stress. You will need to set a budget that works within your means to pay your bills on time. Maybe you can get a better paying job, so you make more money.
There might be sometimes that you are late but you should try to keep up as best as you can this will help take off some stress.
Do you visit your doctor regularly?
Keeping your doctor visits and exercising will help relieve stress. Visiting your doctor regularly will help you keep an eye on your health. Healthy people live a productive life.
What actions do you take to improve your life?
As long as you think things out before you make a decision you will work to improve your personal life. You will also need to take steps to reduce stress, by avoiding harmful actions, such as smoking, drugs, or alcoholism. You can benefit by paying bills on time, visiting your doctor, exercise the mind and body daily and so on.
If you have problems quitting on your own, remember help is available. You have many options, including inpatient services, outpatient services, group support, one-on-one services and more. To learn more about these services go online. You will also find help at local government agencies in your area.
To improve your life you can also volunteer to help someone. You can wrap a gift this year for a homeless or handicapped child.
Quote to live by:
The totality of a record is usually beyond ones’ ability to imagine when you start working on it, but the component parts are, usually, fairly clear one way or another. -Fred Frith
Recommended movie clip to watch:
Author: Jaime Menor
Get wise counsel to help you in setting goals. It’s in the Bible, Proverbs 15:22, TLB. “Plans go wrong with too few counselors; many counselors bring success.“
Study how water flows in a valley stream, smoothly and freely between the rocks. Also, learn from holy books and wise people. Everything – even mountains, rivers, plants and trees – should be your teacher. Morihei Ueshiba
A lot of people stay unsuccessful or have alternating experiences with success and failure, simply because they do not know that they have many bad traits. Bad traits pertain to habits and personal characteristics that ultimately lead to failure. Some of the things you’ve been so used to doing for several years may be the main reason why you struggle much.
The Basic Bad Habits
Laziness is one of the negative habits that a loser has. The worse thing is, lazy people usually do not want to get rid of the problem. If you want to achieve your goals, you need to understand the value of hard work and perseverance. Some of the greatest people in the world are known to work way more than those who did not leave a mark. The greats work longer hours, sleep less, eat less, wake up earlier and suffer more than anybody else. It takes sacrifice to reach your goals. The most important thing to know is that everything you have ever wanted is just outside your comfort zone.
Another bad habit that people have dealt with for several years is fear. They fear things and events without even trying. Some people are even afraid of success subconsciously in a way that they refuse any opportunity that can make them great. Some people do not realize that they just do not or cannot handle the bigger responsibilities that achieved goals come with. You should understand that once you reach a certain goal, it can mean that the bar has just been raised for you to accomplish more.
Personal Bad Traits
Selfishness is a bad trait that you need to get rid of to achieve your goals. There are individuals who do not want to get help from others because they do not want to share their expected success. What’s sad is that most of them do not actually reach their goals. There are so much joy and celebration for every success that can be shared between several individuals. There is even so much money in the world for everyone to stay rich. Even if you may be better off doing some things yourself, still you cannot do everything.
Pessimism is a trait of losers. Losers always find a reason to lose, even if the situation or opportunity is already presenting itself. In most cases, pessimism is tied up to fear. Seeing things in a negative light will have a bad result, most of the time. If you start your day negatively, everything else will already seem bad, so you will focus more on the little things that do not matter and let them bother you, instead of keeping your mind on your goals.
The first step to treating bad habits to achieve your goals is to look at yourself as a confident, capable and strong individual. You are responsible for whatever happens in your life. Although problems are bound to happen, you know that you always have the ability to stay successful in life as you choose. Minor setbacks are supposed to be a means for you to become better and stronger.
Write a list down indicating all your weaknesses and bad traits. Next, put the opposite trait for each. The opposite traits are now your new characteristics to be adopted. Start practicing one good trait per week or month, then add another one for consistency. Over time, you will realize that success follows you because of your positive aura.
Every person may not be fully aware that all successful people have experienced problems that, at more than one time, demotivated them enough to decide to quit. Hindrances are inevitable in every successful person’s life, so you should always expect several to come your way as you try to achieve your goals. Here are some of the things to expect soon.
Money is often the main problem that hinders people from achieving their dreams. There are challenges that arise that require a lot of financial capital or support. The problem for most individuals is that they can’t seem to find the proper source to adequately maintain their needs for a variety of projects. Politicians are one of the most common people who need financial support all the time to fund their programs, campaigns and donations.
The main idea is to learn how to wait for the right opportunity, to avoid exhausting your resources too soon and unwisely. It is important to consider other things that will help you survive for the long term. If you’re going into business, you should prepare for the startup capital, as well as operational expenses to support the company until it is ready to stand independently. Make sure you plan and review everything before investing.
Problems with People
Even though you may already be ready for different types of challenges at different times, others may not be as cooperative or as capable as you. Each person has unique needs and aspirations, so as a leader, you need to focus on these first to gain their interest and help. People who are selfish or unwilling to work with you can have traits that can cause the company to collapse. Some of the negative characteristics include dishonesty, being rebellious and laziness. All these can hinder your progress and keep you from reaching your goals.
It is important to develop leadership skills so that you can adequately encourage and motivate all your people to help you reach certain objectives. Give them missions and functions that best suit their own strengths and capabilities. Understand and get to know other people better so that you can expand the network fully, opening more opportunities in the process. Talk to other successful individuals and learn from their own experience, mistakes, and personal techniques. These people usually are more than willing to share their wisdom with you.
Problems with Nature
The forces of nature are truly inevitable so you always need to have a second or third backup plan ready for these. Some of the things to expect are bad weather, accidents, disease, economic crisis, death, theft, fraud, scandals, and change in the system or government. Try to create plans and objectives that are flexible. You can set deadlines for your projects, but make sure that you still have other ways around if the unstoppable occurs.
Natural forces are part of life so you will encounter these as long as you have goals. Even those without goals need to deal with these aspects. The most important thing is that you do not lose steam and stay motivated and fired up to reach your goals, no matter the cost. Find alternatives and other people who can help you deal and cope with setbacks. Learn from your experience and stay prepared for repeat incidents.
Quotes to live by:
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, you shall begin it well and serenely- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Never give up; for even rivers someday wash dams away.-Arthur Golden
Points to Ponder:
If we are going through tough times, we need to know why, and what we should do when we are in them. If not we become confused, frustrated and disillusioned. We must first adjust the way we perceive life. Even as Christian sometimes we have faulty views and expectations we pick up by listening to bad teaching and bad advice and then there is the influence of our culture. First of all bad things do happen! And they happen to good people (in the way we see good, in God’s eyes, of course, all have sinned and there is no good, except what Christ brings us). We will go through trials, troubles, and tribulations. So what we have to do is figure out what we do when it happens. God does not look upon trouble as we do. Where we see stress he sees opportunities. Where we see a crisis, He sees growth and betterment. God’s purpose in times of crisis and trouble is to teach His children precious lessons. They are intended to educate and build us up. And when we learn from them and ride out these storms of life, we will see the great promise fulfilled. His glorious recompense will come to us throughout eternity. We need to see the joy and opportunities through times of problems. Because we will learn that there is a sweet and wonderful joy we can have here too. We do not have to wait until Heaven. We can learn to make our life joy filled by seizing the crisis and growing from it. To become the person that we are capable of being for our benefit and His glory.
So when God tests you, or bad stuff happens, we need to see it as a time for you to learn and to trust Him by changing what is wrong with you while putting His promises in your heart and feet. And when it is over we can look back and see that our trials have been necessary. We are better, He is glorified! God wants to use our problems for good, to make us better and stronger for our personal development and in turn for us to be able to help others in their lives. So the unhappy, confused and disillusioned Christian will react irrationally with their problems rather than taking the time through spiritual discipline to see the advantage they bring them. So what can we do to refocus ourselves onto the right path?
It is wise to have a goal in mind. It’s in the Bible, Proverbs 13:16, TLB. “A wise man thinks ahead; a fool doesn’t and even brags about it!”
Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself. -Abraham Joshua Heschel
Some people may think that goals have a definite timeline to accomplish. In part, this is true, but there are certainly ways on how you can hasten the process. You can achieve more great things by focusing on the current job and getting it done, without any compromise. Here are some guidelines from the experts that you can use yourself.
Step One: Forming a Team
Things can be accomplished more quickly if you rely on other people and assign tasks accordingly. When forming a team, it is important that you choose individuals whom you can trust and are truly competent in the fields you assign them to. Teams need to be supervised to ensure that you get the results you want. You can also create a hierarchy or create pairs so that one can look out for the other, thereby saving you time when reviewing work.
Forming a team gives you the benefit of practicing your leadership skills. You will find that later on, you also get to finish tasks more quickly alone since you’ve already created an effective system that will provide a smoother flow of various jobs. Make sure you also get the appropriate number of people for the job, or else you risk having too many to watch over, wasting precious time in the process.
Step Two: Finding Shortcuts
Some goals actually have shortcuts that you can use to reach more quickly. These are not quick fixes but can help the entire system respond in a more conducive manner, thereby boosting the process. For example, there are no shortcuts to permanent weight loss, but you can do some techniques that will hasten the fat loss. Some of the approaches include using HIIT or high-intensity interval training, instead of the traditional cardiovascular exercise. HIIT is done only in 20 minutes tops, and burns fat and raises your metabolism higher and for longer periods of time. Your body will respond to the exercise faster.
To know about the shortcuts, always stay updated with changes and developments in technology and professional programs. Stay connected in a network of people related to your goals. Joining forums and online seminars are ideal. You can also talk to experts, so you can compare processes and determine if a certain approach is truly effective.
Step Three: Extra Hours
Consistency, discipline, and dedication always give you faster and better results. If you want to finish things faster, you may have to put in extra hours and work longer than the usual. The more important thing is that you keep stress levels down afterward by relaxing and giving yourself enough time to rest. This way, you can move on to the next goals to be achieved. Overtime should also be well-planned. You cannot expect to work effectively beyond your usual time if you’re still tired the night before or do not have enough equipment to work with.
Prepare and strategize by coming up with small objectives and actions steps to be done in sequence. Having information prior to your overtime can help greatly and save you lots of idle time. You may also ask someone to work with you during overtime to accomplish more. Try to incorporate all the three steps above and see for yourself how much more you can boost the process.
Words to live by:
1. Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air. But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified. 1 Corinthians 9:25-27
Lord Jesus Christ,
by your own three days in the tomb,
you hallowed the graves of all who believe in you
and so made the grave a sign of hope
that promises resurrection
even as it claims our mortal bodies.
Grant that our brother, Teddy, may sleep here in peace
until you awaken him to glory,
for you are the resurrection and the life.
Then he will see you face to face
and in your light will see the light
and know the splendor of God,
for you live and reign forever and ever.
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
“Memory is the only paradise out of which we cannot be driven away.”-Johann Paul Friedrich Richter
Just a Note: Hello, if we were having a coffee, I’d be holding mine tightly in my hands for warmth. I am imagining and got scared after someone shadow on the side of my eye and thought there was someone loitering outside of my office.
Maybe my memory is just going haywire. The last few weeks I’ve been thinking that I really need to make notes for these posts and I know for certain that something worth talking/thinking about what happened on Monday (Feb 26, 2018). I just can’t remember what it was. Looking back, I’m not sure that it was one of the most exciting weeks. I think I did something fun, It’s was my 22nd Wedding Anniversary I did spend my whole day with my wife, but I can’t remember that either, I wish I did forget what happen on that day, Teddy a friend of mine told me that he will take a leave on February 28 but he takes his leave on earth 2 days earlier on February 26 it was an unfortunate day for the family of my friend he passed away and maybe that’s the reason, that I’ve been very sensitive on my relations with my family and friends. ” Countless times it takes a death to make a person truly appreciate someone important to them. Why is it that our lives are so busy that we don’t take a moment to truly recognize all that we value? Why is it that we always wish we could tell someone gone too soon that we care for them, just one last time? We need to start telling those we love/care how much we cherish them before it’s too late. We must stop waiting for something horrible to happen in order to hold those we love/care a little closer. Each and every day, all of us have our own little world that takes tending to. We have school, deadlines, work, bills to pay, cars to fix and lots of list of things to do. All these things, while necessary, distract us from appreciating those who care. Appreciate those who matter to you, now – not when they’re gone. Live in the moment because you’re not guaranteed tomorrow. Before you know it you can truly lose it all. So, forgive easily, hug often, say “I care for you and or I love you,” and live for today
Words to live by :
- Some things are meant to happen, just not meant to be. Some things are meant to come into your life, just not meant to stay. – Trent Shelton
- Always be thankful. Life could be worse.- Unknown
- The past cannot be changed, forgotten, edited or erased; it can only be accepted.- Unknown
“Do you allow yourself to be controlled by coffee? Yes I did. But, I don’t allow my life to be controlled by these 5 things”
Don’t Allow Your Life To Be Controlled By These 5 Things
1. Your Past
2. Other Peoples Opinions
3. Limited Beliefs
A Quote to live by:
1. Your Past-“When you hold on to your history you do so at the expense of your destiny.” ~ T. D. Jakes
2. Other Peoples Opinions-Care about people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner.– Lao Tzu
3. Limited Beliefs-The Second You Limit Yourself Is The Second You Fail
4. Relationships-develop enough mental strength that you get to a point where you don’t need others to make you happy.
5. Money-“Take a better stand. Put money in my mom’s hand. Get my daughter this college plan, so she don’t need no man.”
Speaker: Josiah Ruff
1. Your Past-Release that weight from your back so you can be free. Don’t allow events of the past, which are now gone, to ruin this moment, which is perfect – this moment which is now to enjoy, which is ready for you to LIVE FULLY. Your past does not equal your future.“When you hold on to your history you do so at the expense of your destiny.” ~ T. D. Jakes
2. Other Peoples Opinions-Do not allow other people’s opinions and judgements to control the direction of your life. The need to fit in and feel wanted can cause you to travel down paths you don’t want to travel. People pleasing is a curse that should be avoided at all costs. Before you do anything, ask yourself: Am I doing this because I want to do it?… or because of my fear of judgement from others if I don’t do it.
3. Limited Beliefs- Do not allow your life to be controlled by your own limited beliefs. NOW, a warning with this one. These beliefs may be conscious, but more than likely they will be unconscious. They may be unconscious limitations that have been conditioned from a young age and throughout your entire life, by listening to those around you who never reached for their own dream. When you have nothing inside holding you back, there is nothing outside that can hold you back either. Your entire life will change the very instant you decide to change your mindset. The instant you decide to see everything as a gift. When you DECIDE to see every circumstance and challenge as a blessing rather than a curse. When you become conscious to the fact that everything is as it should be, and fighting WHAT IS, is insane.
4. Relationships-Relationships. A touchy subject. But, if you are always needing another to be happy, to feel complete, then you are always one moment away from a breakdown if that person leaves, or unhappiness if the relationship is not going well.
I am not suggesting to avoid relationships. There is no force on this earth greater than LOVE and connection. I am talking about those who can’t LIVE if they aren’t in a relationship. Those who will be with just about anyone, including all the wrong ones, just to avoid spending a moment being single.
What I AM saying, is to develop enough mental strength that you get to a point where you don’t need others to make you happy. You are just as happy being alone, as you are in a relationship.
5. Money-This is what controls the majority of humans on the planet. Can you guess what it is? …MONEY!
This does not mean you shouldn’t want abundance. It doesn’t mean money is evil. You know as well as I do what great things you can do, and people you can help with money. What this means is, do not allow your decisions to be controlled by money.
If you are choosing something ONLY on the factor of how much money is involved, you’ve just made the wrong decision. What you will find, is that when you follow your heart, and you lead with your intention to SERVE others, to give your best to others – EVERY SINGLE TIME, when you follow your intuition and truly GIVE from your soul – then, the money will come, and it will come in far greater amounts than if you simply chase money for the sake of chasing money.
So, challenge yourself to live the life you want to live. Free from being controlled by ANYTHING. Find your freedom. LIVE FULLY!
Words to live by:
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.- Epicurus
In my 40s, I was always waiting for my big break. I used to see others’ success and was convinced (without a doubt) that that made them happy. Now, I feel myself running away from hype and hustle. I feel strong standing on the ground underneath me.
I read somewhere in the web, on how to be stayed motivated, inspired and content while painting the same type of art over and over. The painter said that the process of painting had to be meaningful. The actual daily experience was a priority; not the selling or sharing or finishing. It’s something that has stuck with me and when I feel a restlessness, I think back to that insight.
Dana Tanamachi, says “Live a quiet life and work with your hands” and this is something that I’ve come to understand. In this very quiet and humbling phase of my life, I look back to my 20’s and remember my thirst for recognition. I feel content looking into my 30’s with a desire to help people and just enjoying the process.
I don’t have everything figured out but I knew I needed to share this. While I’m still learning, understanding and failing myself, I hope that you feel a little less alone after reading this.
And to my friend (Teddy Delos Santos) – who just passed away – I hope you know that you’re one of the few people on earth that reminded me of how smart and strong I am. I will constantly think back to your words of encouragement after I landed on my current job. You said, “Your work ethic, ability and attitude are the things that got you to this point.”