Some individuals are just born losers, which mean that these people are bound to fail more than others. If you think that you belong in that category, then you must change your point and view to start your life in a different perspective. There are some approaches that have been tried and proven by the experts and pros, but you must believe in this bible verse “In their hearts, humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps-Proverbs 16:9 ” and then you might find that you’re not such a big loser after all.
Take a pen and paper and give yourself a brief evaluation. Write down the things that you believe are your strengths and weaknesses. It is very likely that you have more items in your weakness list compared to the ones in your strengths list if you are a born loser. Next, try to write down the reasons why you have the strength or weakness. For example, if you listed down “Patient” in your strength list, put some more specific details such as “I am willing to wait several months to save for a new mp3 player” or if you wrote down “Lazy” in your weakness list, you can correlate by stating “I do not like to wake up until after 10 in the morning.”
Knowing the specifics of your strengths and weaknesses can help you become more adept at improving the hindrances. It is vital that you know and understands how you can use your strengths as a foundation, as well as turn your weaknesses into strengths gradually. You can aim to change one to three weaknesses at a time. God has created you to fulfill a specific role in this world. There is no one else who can achieve completely what God has purposely created you to do. God often clearly demonstrates His plan for our lives by lining up circumstances in obvious ways. And He also shows us what His will is NOT for us to do in that same way. It is not His will for you to take the job that is not offered to you. If you are 5’ 2” tall and weigh 110 lbs., it is not likely that God has created you to play professional basketball.
Changing Your Weaknesses
You need to give yourself time to improve on your weaknesses. Be specific in your action plan by creating steps toward your goal. For example, if you are “weakened” by “Lack of focus”, you can start enhancing in that area by doing activities like “Reading more books about the matter for at least 30 minutes a day” or “Listening to a person talk for at least 1 minute before losing focus.” Improve in the activities regularly by increasing the time frame and adding more challenges. Remember God has gifted every one of us to perform a special mission for which we alone were created. How amazing is that? So, when you discover your weakness and establishes what your strength are, seek to discover God’s will for your life, pay attention to how He has gifted you. His plan for you will always be directly related to the gifts that He has bestowed upon you. The great news is that you will automatically be good at whatever it is that He has called you to do!
Learning from Winners
It is recommended that you stick with individuals who are successful and born winners. This way, you can adapt their habits and personality that will, in time, lead to nonstop success. Winners and leaders have great traits that you can follow, such as perseverance, critical thinking, stability under pressure, competence and the aspiration to never give up. Adopt these qualities as your own and use the individuals as your role models.
Read about people who have successfully made it in their chosen fields of interest. One of the reasons why you may fail constantly is because you are choosing the aspects where you are worst at. Try to ask yourself about the things that you truly care about or even study and review without anyone needing to tell you to. These are the features that you are most likely talented in.
Think of it this way: you should understand that you are basically a composite of the five people you spend the most time with. So, then, it is vital that you choose those five people well. If you choose to surround yourself with godly advisors, they will be instrumental in helping you discern God’s plan for your life. But if you surround yourself with people who are far from God, your hope of finding His best for your life will be greatly diminished.
Proverbs 11:14 Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.
Should you encounter success or achieve your goals, use these as motivational tools to remind you that you are always capable of gaining bigger benefits from larger tasks. Look back on your previous accomplishments and use these finished objectives to lead to your ultimate goal. It is also wise to expect failure once in a while, but you should use this as a way to learn. Failure should always be an opportunity for you to do better the next time.
It is clear from Scripture that celebration is a spiritual discipline that God desires for us to practice. It was never his will for Christians to live dry, boring lives and that is why we see celebrations both commanded and practiced throughout the Bible. Scripture says that Christ came so that we may have life and life more abundantly (John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come so that they may have life, and may have it abundantly). This abundant life includes celebration. Then you might add some prayer by thanking God “Lord, teach me to offer you a heart of thanksgiving and praise in all my daily experiences of life. Teach me to be joyful always, to pray continually and to give thanks in all my circumstances”.
Biblical Points to Ponder:
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future-Jeremiah 29:11.
Sometimes we hate everything the prosperity “gospel” stands for, but too often we live like one who believes it. When we think about God’s good plans for every one of us, we picture getting married and raising a family as soon as possible, becoming a mid-level manager by 35 and retiring comfortably at 60. In other words, our way of viewing God’s plan for us looks oddly like more on material things. These things are all good gifts, and there’s nothing immoral about wishing for a comfortable life in the right context. In fact, we should pray that God blesses us and his people. The problem arises when we wish for such temporary things more than the ultimate joy received through sanctification.
We don’t know what the future will hold, but we know that he is good and will bring what he began to completion (Philippians 1:6). If we pursue holiness first, wherever we may end up will be of some importance, yet ultimately trivial. Before every big decision, surrender to God and pursue holiness. Trust the Lord and his promises to make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5–6).
God’s wonderful plan for our life is that we repent, believe in him, and fight sin through his power. God’s wonderful plan for our life is sober-mindedness, sexual purity, and that we “walk not as unwise, but wise, making the most of our time because the day is evil” (Ephesians 5:15-16). God’s plan is that he may be most glorified in us through us being satisfied in him.