As the writer’s success as an author grew and grew, so did the abuse at home — until finally, she left the man who she loved, but who couldn’t allow her to succeed.
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How to Avoid Impulse Spending
Planning a major Purchase? Before committing to a major or even if its just a small purchase, give yourself a self-test to determine whether your purchase would be a wise decision.
Answer these questions truthfully:
- Does your spouse or partner complain that you spend too much money?
- Are you surprised each month when your credit card bill arrives at how much more you charged than you thought you had?
- Do you have more shoes and clothes in your closet than you could ever possibly wear?
- Do you own every new gadget before it has time to collect dust on a retailer’s shelf?
- Do you buy things you didn’t know you wanted until you saw them on display in a store?
If you answered “yes” to any two of the above questions, you are an impulse spender and indulge yourself in retail therapy.
This is not a good thing. It will prevent you from saving for the important things like a house, a new car, a vacation or retirement. You must set some financial goals and resist spending money on items that really don’t matter in the long run.
Impulse spending will not only put a strain on your finances but your relationships, as well. To overcome the problem, the first thing to do is learn to separate your needs from your wants.
Advertisers blitz us hawking their products at us 24/7. The trick is to give yourself a cooling-off period before you buy anything that you have not planned for.
When you go shopping, make a list and take only enough cash to pay for what you have planned to buy. Leave your credit cards at home.
If you see something you think you really need, give yourself two weeks to decide if it is really something you need or something you can easily do without. By following this simple solution, you will mend your financial fences and your relationships.
Do you procrastinate very often then read the story below?
I was sitting on the sofa in my apartment eating some food when I feel a piece go down my throat into the wrong pipe. I hack until I spit it onto the floor but it still feels like something’s in there. I go into the bathroom to hack some more, I’ ll try to reach the food by putting my finger in my throat, I still feel it. I’m standing there wondering “How do I know if I’m choking?” After a while, I realize I’m wondering that for so long, I should have answered my question already. Just then I heard a loud knock at my door. “Tao po, Hello, Anybody home?” The voice belongs to my Filipino neighbor. “Just a minute and sandali lang” I yell. I decided to push some things into my bathroom cabinet so it doesn’t look like a total mess. Suddenly I heard a loud noise his barging in. What is happening, they trespassing what are their business here? I run out of the bathroom. I was greeted by my neighbor with his wife and a policeman. What the hell? They seem to be staring at something with looks of shock and shame. “Now we know why he hasn’t been answering for days.” Disgusted! I turn around to see what they are staring at and see my dead body lying on the floor. It looks like it’s been there for days, skin bluish obvious sign of choking. I guess that answers my question. Now I’ve realized I’m already dead what would I do? Then I feel a slap in my face, It was just a dream. Panaginip lang pala salamat sa Diyos.
Words to live by:
Some people, upon hearing the gospel and knowing their spiritual need, delay in making a response. This is the most dangerous type of procrastination. Life is short, and we do not know what will happen tomorrow as written in (James 4:13-14). Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit” – 14 yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes.
Author : Jaime H. Menor Jr.
“When God made us, He made everyone unique–He gave us a free will; a will to act on choice. The will of man is the highest form of authority on earth. Man was given volition not to do the will of man but the will of God as God’s representative here on earth. With a will, man can decide his own course; he can determine his own fate in life. Having this free will, man can blame no one for any decision he may make whether that decision produces negative results or positive results.
Life is About Choices and the Decisions We Make, Life is like a road, there are crossroads, long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment. Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad? There are no guarantees. You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which your really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations. Wrong decisions are always at hindsight. Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong. Take the risk: decide. Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life’s crossroads: • Get as many information as you can about your situation. You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5 W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation? Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of information about a situation. • Identify and create options. What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end. • Weigh the pros and cons of every option. Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences of such an option. • Trust yourself and make that decision. Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose… decide… believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time. Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future.
“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.” Denis Waitley
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Words to live by:
Life is choice-driven so you are a product of your decisions; your life today is a product of yesterday’s choices. The scripture says in Deuteronomy 30:19: “This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.” Your decisions not only affect the quality of your life, but your children are also impacted by your choices, and others around you may be affected by your choices as well. If you want your future to be different, you must make better choices today.
Success is made sweeter when shared with people you would rather be with.-Naomi
I remember this old story and I would like to share it to everyone.
Father John woke up Sunday morning and realizing it was an exceptionally beautiful and sunny early spring day, decided he just had to play golf. So… he told the Associate Pastor that he was feeling sick and persuaded him to say Mass for him that day. As soon as the Associate Pastor left the room, Father John headed out of town to a golf course about forty miles away. This way he knew he wouldn’t accidentally meet anyone he knew from his parish. Setting up on the first tee, he was alone. After all, it was Sunday morning and everyone else was in church! At about this time, Saint Peter leaned over to the Lord while looking down from the heavens and exclaimed, “You’re not going to let him get away with this, are you?” The Lord sighed, and said, “No, I guess not.” Just then Father John hit the ball and it shot straight towards the pin, dropping just short of it, rolled up and fell into the hole. It WAS A 420 YARD HOLE IN ONE! St. Peter was astonished. He looked at the Lord and asked, “Why did you let him do that?” The Lord smiled and replied, “Who’s he going to tell?”
Even David made serious mistakes in his lifetime. When he made mistakes, he repented, and was forgiven by God. God makes no mistake in honoring whom He would. Moreover, among all the sons of David, Solomon, the son of Bathsheba was chosen to be the successor to King David. Why? Why would God choose to honor such a woman of sin throughout the history of His holy nation, Israel, where so much emphasis is placed on genealogical uprightness? There were so many other sons that were borne to those other wives of David who were not tainted with such disrepute, yet God picked this woman of shame to bring forth the successor. Theologians and ministers say it is simply a proof of His grace and mercy.
Having a mistake sometime does not mean your a bad person. It’s just that sometimes the creator of heaven and earth allows you to make mistake because we sometime contented being in our comfort zone which is not enough in the perception of the almighty God. Because for us to learn, God really wants us to dig it out the purpose that He establish within us before we were born, that we need to cultivate, we sometimes think just only the surface, the beneath alacrity an invitation party in our lives that only will happen for a day, but God wants us to see the ultimate, primary underneath the surface that He wants us to cultivate of course using Jesus Christ as your shovel in life. God’s power is His spirit, He send His spirit as your fortress, strengthen you from your day to day of goin on your life, don’t rip the moment or opportunities you have. Leaving temporarily is not bad typical “rebellious” if you will study bout Jesus life He never stayed on one place only. He dwells in different places and yet He used to left the place and went to another region far across. If you read the book of New Testament.
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“The world is not made for my convenience. I see it now!!”
A dream is your creative vision for your life in the future. You must break out of your current comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar and the unknown.
This is something different and something new.
It feels good because it’s a challenge.
It’s definitely outside of my comfort zone, way outside, and I want to play it right,”
I’m willing to try new things, and they have that kind of trust in me that I can do it. So I’m really, really thankful. In life, you have to embrace the change, you have to embrace the fact that as the years go by, you’re not getting any younger, you’re getting older and wiser. That’s why I didn’t hesitate to accept the job.”
For me, preparation and right timing is everything and I feel that everything happens for a reason,”
Thus this quote by Brian Tracy influence my decision to go out of my comfort zone.
Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.
”There’s so much I had to say I know the words I left behind
And now I’m caught in a daydream with nowhere to run and hide
The world rushes by me, it’s leaving me here all alone” ~Alanis Morisette Rain
“The world has enough to meet everyone’s need but not enough to satisfy even one man’s greed!”-Mahatma Gandhi
Using Attraction Without Being Greedy
Author: Martin Woodchild
One of the hold backs a lot of people experience with using the law of attraction is the actual core concept of abundance. If you’re like most people, you’ve been brought up with the idea that there is a finite supply of near enough everything. Which on a “local” level may be true but in the context of the universe is so wrong it’s embarrassing. But until your mind gets to grips with that idea (if it ever does) then you may need to tame down your requests so that you can use the law of attraction without your conscious mind accusing you of being greedy.
Rephrase your requests
At one level or another, you’re putting out requests to the universe.
When they start out with this, most people will word those requests so that they’re self-limiting. Just in case the request isn’t granted by the universe because it looks like you’re being greedy.
So you’ll maybe ask for a specific sum of money or a particular age and model of car. But these will almost always be limited because there’s that awkward nagging voice at the back of your mind that says “don’t be too greedy.” And you’ve listened to it.
But a simple rephrasing of your request can get over this.
Add the words “at least ” to your request. So you’d ask for “at least a thousand dollars” rather than the specific figure.
Or if it’s a physical item add in “or something even better” or some similar words. So your 2007 red car with whatever engine size and other trimmings would end with the caveat that it was absolutely fine for the universe to over-deliver on your request.
Give this a go and see how often you’ve underestimated the capacity of universe to deliver nearly anything.
Work on the concept of greed
Is the idea that you’re being greedy in what you’re trying to attract your idea or the people around you?
Quite often we get fixed in a particular comfort zone. So do our friends and colleagues.
If you’re suddenly trying to move outside that comfort zone then other people (maybe including yourself) start get to get worried and uncomfortable. That’s one of the reasons it’s called a comfort zone and why so many people limit themselves more than they need to.
If it’s “only” other people who are naysaying your goals and calling them too greedy, it’s a relatively simple job to simply not share your aspirations with these kindly, but ultimately defeatist, people.
If it’s you that is getting in the way and constantly snarling at you not to be greedy in what you’re trying to attract, that’s not as easy.
But fortunately it’s do-able.
The earlier idea of using “at least” can sneak past your critical mind more often than you’d initially credit.
But if that doesn’t work, it’s time to tell your aggressive inner voice precisely where it can stick itself. Yes – you can do that. And, yes, it works near enough all the time. Just (in your head, not out loud) tell that voice that it’s no longer welcome in your head.
Then you can use the law of attraction, go for seemingly impossible targets and splatter them into insignificance.
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