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Don’t Allow Your Life To Be Controlled By These 5 Things

“Do you allow yourself to be controlled by coffee? Yes I did. But, I don’t allow my life to be controlled by these 5 things”

 

Don’t Allow Your Life To Be Controlled By These 5 Things
1. Your Past
2. Other Peoples Opinions
3. Limited Beliefs
4. Relationships
5. Money

A Quote to live by:

1. Your Past-“When you hold on to your history you do so at the expense of your destiny.” ~ T. D. Jakes

2. Other Peoples Opinions-Care about people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner.– Lao Tzu

3. Limited Beliefs-The Second You Limit Yourself Is The Second You Fail

4. Relationships-develop enough mental strength that you get to a point where you don’t need others to make you happy.

5. Money-“Take a better stand. Put money in my mom’s hand. Get my daughter this college plan, so she don’t need no man.”
— Biggie

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Speaker: Josiah Ruff

1. Your Past-Release that weight from your back so you can be free.

 Don’t allow events of the past, which are now gone, to ruin this moment, which is perfect – this moment which is now to enjoy, which is ready for you to LIVE FULLY.

 Your past does not equal your future.“When you hold on to your history you do so at the expense of your destiny.” ~ T. D. Jakes

2. Other Peoples Opinions-Do not allow other people’s opinions and judgements to control the direction of your life.

 The need to fit in and feel wanted can cause you to travel down paths you don’t want to travel. People pleasing is a curse that should be avoided at all costs.

 Before you do anything, ask yourself:
 Am I doing this because I want to do it?… or because of my fear of judgement from others if I don’t do it.

3. Limited Beliefs- Do not allow your life to be controlled by your own limited beliefs.

 NOW, a warning with this one. These beliefs may be conscious, but more than likely they will be unconscious. 

They may be unconscious limitations that have been conditioned from a young age and throughout your entire life, by listening to those around you who never reached for their own dream.

 When you have nothing inside holding you back, there is nothing outside that can hold you back either. Your entire life will change the very instant you decide to change your mindset. The instant you decide to see everything as a gift. 

When you DECIDE to see every circumstance and challenge as a blessing rather than a curse. When you become conscious to the fact that everything is as it should be, and fighting WHAT IS, is insane.

4. Relationships-Relationships. 

A touchy subject. 

But, if you are always needing another to be happy, to feel complete, then you are always one moment away from a breakdown if that person leaves, or unhappiness if the relationship is not going well.

I am not suggesting to avoid relationships. There is no force on this earth greater than LOVE and connection. 

I am talking about those who can’t LIVE if they aren’t in a relationship. Those who will be with just about anyone, including all the wrong ones, just to avoid spending a moment being single.

What I AM saying, is to develop enough mental strength that you get to a point where you don’t need others to make you happy.

You are just as happy being alone, as you are in a relationship.

5. Money-This is what controls the majority of humans on the planet. Can you guess what it is?
…MONEY!

This does not mean you shouldn’t want abundance. It doesn’t mean money is evil. You know as well as I do what great things you can do, and people you can help with money. 

What this means is, do not allow your decisions to be controlled by money.

If you are choosing something ONLY on the factor of how much money is involved, you’ve just made the wrong decision.

 What you will find, is that when you follow your heart, and you lead with your intention to SERVE others, to give your best to others – EVERY SINGLE TIME, when you follow your intuition and truly GIVE from your soul – then, the money will come, and it will come in far greater amounts than if you simply chase money for the sake of chasing money.

So, challenge yourself to live the life you want to live. Free from being controlled by ANYTHING.

 Find your freedom.
 LIVE FULLY!

 


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The Benefit Of The Doubt — notquiteold

When you give people the benefit of the doubt, you automatically assume that they are nice people trying their best. And your anger dissipates.

And it’s so nice not to be angry.

When you assign benevolent motives to people instead of assuming unpleasant motives, the world itself becomes a more benevolent place.

I recently heard someone I love very much say, “At my age, I am not afraid to say what I think. I’ve earned the right to express my opinion.” And I agree. Except. At my age, I expect civility, kindness, and respect. If your comment is needlessly hurtful or disrespectful – even in the smallest […]

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Changing Targets : Reasonable Goals — 83 Unsung Heroes

In some instances, we might not know how things will turn out, but the ground work is there. We can see the first step to our target and it’s obvious and apparent and unquestionable. However, it doesn’t look like we expected it to look and takes us somewhere different, so we change it or take it out of the equation rather than run with it to see what happens.

A project that I’ve recently been managing at work is around process efficiency. One tranche of “efficiency” is speed, in that if we can do a process faster with at least the same degree of accuracy, it will be better. So we set about the task of mapping how long the […]

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We Rise by Uplifting Others — Redefined Love

What is the risk you are willing to take to have a more filling life? Are you willing to let a certain crowd go? are you willing to learn to allow yourself to be more positive? What are you willing to do? I challenge you to find a way to uplift the people around you and that includes you. Trust me it feels so good to uplift others as much as it feels good to be uplifted.

Uplifting people can you make you feel after. Have you uplifted someone today?

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Problems to Expect When You Try to Achieve Your Goals

Author: Jaime Menor

 Study how water flows in a valley stream, smoothly and freely between the rocks. Also learn from holy books and wise people. Everything – even mountains, rivers, plants and trees – should be your teacher. Morihei Ueshiba

Every person may not be fully aware that all successful people have experienced problems that, at more than one time, demotivated them enough to decide to quit. Hindrances are inevitable in every successful person’s life, so you should always expect several to come your way as you try to achieve your goals. Here are some of the things to expect soon.

Financial Setbacks

Money is often the main problem that hinders people from achieving their dreams. There are challenges that arise that require a lot of financial capital or support. The problem for most individuals is that they can’t seem to find the proper source to adequately maintain their needs for a variety of projects. Politicians are one of the most common people who need financial support all the time to fund their programs, campaigns and donations.

The main idea is to learn how to wait for the right opportunity, to avoid exhausting your resources too soon and unwisely. It is important to consider other things that will help you survive for the long term. If you’re going into business, you should prepare for the startup capital, as well as operational expenses to support the company until it is ready to stand independently. Make sure you plan and review everything before investing.

Problems with People

Even though you may already be ready for different types of challenges at different times, others may not be as cooperative or as capable as you. Each person has unique needs and aspirations, so as a leader, you need to focus on these first to gain their interest and help. People who are selfish or unwilling to work with you can have traits that can cause the company to collapse. Some of the negative characteristics include dishonesty, being rebellious and laziness. All these can hinder your progress and keep you from reaching your goals.

It is important to develop leadership skills, so that you can adequately encourage and motivate all your people to help you reach certain objectives. Give them missions and functions that best suit their own strengths and capabilities. Understand and get to know other people better so that you can expand the network fully, opening more opportunities in the process. Talk to other successful individuals and learn from their own experience, mistakes and personal techniques. These people usually are more than willing to share their wisdom with you.

Problems with Nature

The forces of nature are truly inevitable so you always need to have a second or third backup plan ready for these. Some of the things to expect are bad weather, accidents, disease, economic crisis, death, theft, fraud, scandals and change in the system or government. Try to create plans and objectives that are flexible. You can set deadlines for your projects, but make sure that you still have other ways around if the unstoppable occurs.

Natural forces are part of life so you will encounter these as long as you have goals. Even those without goals need to deal with these aspects. The most important thing is that you do not lose steam and stay motivated and fired up to reach your goals, no matter the cost. Find alternatives and other people who can help you deal and cope during setbacks. Learn from your experience and stay prepared for repeat incidents.

Quotes to live by:

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, you shall begin it well and serenely-  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Never give up; for even rivers someday wash dams away.-Arthur Golden


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The Right Way to Set and Achieve Your Goals

The Right Way to Set and Achieve Your Goals

People set their goals differently, depending on their current situation, resources, physical capacity and other factors. You can, however, follow some guidelines to make sure that your goals are credible and possible. Too many individuals set their goals too high unknowingly, only to lose and get disappointed for life. Here are some tips for you.

Being Specific

Goals need to be specific, so that you know which part of the process you’re currently in and the particular ways on how you will achieve it. Most people have goals to get promoted, get rich, improve relationship and the like, but these are very vague and your mind can become confused about what you truly mean. General descriptions usually do not have boundaries, so you always leave room for mistakes and compromise. If you want results that you can be proud of, be specific.

To be specific, you need to include the full details. Write down something like, “I want to get $1 million by October of this year.” or “I need to become key supervisor of the sales division by next week.” or “I want my kids, Taylor and Chad, to become best friends beginning tomorrow.” Include the names, the position, the amount, the date and everything else needed to train your mind to start working towards that goal.

Being Measurable

Goals need to be measurable so that you can gauge how well you have done lately. To help measure your paths and goals, you should include measurable details. For your job, you can include details such as the number of hours you’re working, the amount you’re earning, the staff you’re handling, etc. For the goal of money, you can include details such as the amount you want to have as a whole, the number of companies or businesses you own, your contact persons, etc. Always have things and items to be measured so you can understand how close you are to getting your goals. If your goal is to earn $100,000 a month, then you know you’re halfway there if you’re already earning $50,000 a month.

Being Attainable and Realistic

Only set goals that can possibly be accomplished. Some people set goals that are too high to reach, that they are almost setting up things that are impossible. Make sure you only set objectives that you can reach within a given amount of time, provided the current resources and capabilities you have. Some examples of impossible goals are doubling your salary overnight, getting a promotion higher than your boss’s position, etc. Some goals can be achieved faster compared to others if you have some strengths and paths to back these up. Always include a strategic plan for big objectives.

Time-Bound

Set deadlines to achieve your goals or else you’ll never going to finish anything. Stay specific when setting timelines and schedules. For example, indicate things like “To spend an hour with my wife everyday starting tomorrow (indicate exact date and year)”. Setting the exact time and date will spur you to start working on your goals, instead of putting it off for another available time. Some goals can take years to accomplish so it is wiser to break these down into smaller objectives, still complete with deadlines. You can finish everything in a sequence to finally reach the biggest one.

Words to ponder:

“I am committed to achieving my goals and can do all things through Christ who strengthens me and will create the right circumstances by taking action daily to achieve these goals.”

 


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How to Avoid Impulse Spending

How to Avoid Impulse Spending

Planning a major Purchase? Before committing to a major or even if its just a small purchase, give yourself a self-test to determine whether your purchase would be a wise decision.

Answer these questions truthfully:

  • Does your spouse or partner complain that you spend too much money?

 

  • Are you surprised each month when your credit card bill arrives at how much more you charged than you thought you had?

 

  • Do you have more shoes and clothes in your closet than you could ever possibly wear?

 

  • Do you own every new gadget before it has time to collect dust on a retailer’s shelf?

 

  • Do you buy things you didn’t know you wanted until you saw them on display in a store?

 

If you answered “yes” to any two of the above questions, you are an impulse spender and indulge yourself in retail therapy.

 

This is not a good thing. It will prevent you from saving for the important things like a house, a new car, a vacation or retirement. You must set some financial goals and resist spending money on items that really don’t matter in the long run.

 

Impulse spending will not only put a strain on your finances but your relationships, as well. To overcome the problem, the first thing to do is learn to separate your needs from your wants.

 

Advertisers blitz us hawking their products at us 24/7. The trick is to give yourself a cooling-off period before you buy anything that you have not planned for.

 

When you go shopping, make a list and take only enough cash to pay for what you have planned to buy. Leave your credit cards at home.

 

If you see something you think you really need, give yourself two weeks to decide if it is really something you need or something you can easily do without. By following this simple solution, you will mend your financial fences and your relationships.

 
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Is The Best Things in Life Are Free?

Author:Jhmenor

“The Best Things in Life Are Free” is a song popularized by the 2 multi awarded singers Luther Vandross and Janet Jackson, first recorded for the Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis-produced soundtrack to the 1992 film, Mo’ Money,starred by Damon Wayans.Well enough with the introduction because in real life, there is no such thing are free.  There are certain state of mind that there are things that cost nothing that can improve your life.   Well! it was just a “Utopia”, for everything has a price even the things we call priceless has a price  lets’  face that facts: All the things you want cost money  being alive costs people so much money. You need shelter and you want to live in a beautiful house in a very nice area, you have to pay for it. You want nice food and you want to go out to dinner with your partner for a nice t-bone you have to pay for it. You want to go somewhere with your love ones, you need money for your fare. Just living alone could costs us so much money nothing in life is ever free, there is always a cost. When dealing with love and relationships, it costs certain freedoms. For some who may be in controlling relationships, it could cost them friendships. Having a family costs personal time. Granted, you could schedule personal time but it’s not as easy as it would be prior to having a family. Cars, homes and the like all cost money, so let us live with it accept that everything in life has a prices, for money is needed for a majority of everyone desires.

Even salvation we called free is not really free because you need to work for it, if you believe in Jesus you need to repent.  Repentance and not to sin again is the price you have to pay for you to be save and have that salvation you desire.

 

For me. “The Best Things in Life Are Free” is just a” catch phrase” for a Marketer to lure their target market to patronize the product that they are promoting, because even the product they are giving away has also a cost, it was part of the company’s marketing plan that involves planning and budgeting in which their main objective was to penetrate and lure their target market.-Jhmenor

If the best things in life are free why we aren’t happy? When we are free to chose to be happy, You should watch the movie below for you to understand..

 

Words to live by:

“If you only had 48 hours left to live, would you spend it like you normally spend your weekends? If not, why spend 2/7th of your life wasting your free time? After all, free time isn’t free. Free time is the most expensive time you have, because nobody pays for it but you. But that also makes it the most valuable time you have, as you alone stand to reap the profits from spending it wisely.” ― Jarod Kintz

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