Hey. If we were having a coffee this week, I kinda feel like it should be tea, strong tea, normally associated with builders. This week began the long awaited redecorating / renovating of my living room. I’ve never built shelves before, so had no idea how long it would take. […]
A big thumbs up…”I guess that sometimes even the smallest action can solve a big problem.”
At the weekend, I replaced a doorstep. At the front of my house there’s a porch that I don’t use (as you can tell my the state of the path on the photo below – the next project). Turns out that a mouse did use the porch but couldn’t quite get […]
Author Jaime Menor Jr.
Have you watched The Movie “LIMITLESS” it’s about a writer who takes an experimental drug that allows him to use 100 percent of his brain, with his heightened brain activity, all of his senses become tuned in to everything in his surrounding environment, he can recall everything he has seen and heard, he can learn exponentially faster, and he is able to outsmart and out-talk people. That’s what that movie goes well my question is “Can one person really Improve his/her Personal Life by Looking at the Entire Picture?” Hmmm!!! Sounds like a “Birds Eye View” for me– but what is bird’s-eye view? Wikipedia defines it as an elevated view of an object from above, with a perspective as though the observer were a bird, often used in the making of blueprints, floor plans, and maps. Well, that means to improve your personal life you have to consider yourself as a whole pie. You have to review your liability, behaviors, actions, emotional responses, and overall standard of living. Once you review the details, you will find it easier to move ahead and make the necessary changes. To get started begin with a checklist.
How are your behaviors?
What are your behaviors? Do you engage in activities that lead toward negative consequences? Do you drink heavily? Do you drug? Do you smoke? Do you associate with the wrong people?
Once you write down your behaviors that pull down consider the details. If you engage in activities that lead toward negative consequences, likely you are not looking at the whole pie. Rather you may act before you speak or do something. What you need to do is to consider consequences before you speak or act. If you drink heavily, perhaps you have an alcohol problem. There is nothing wrong with admitting you have a problem. You will need to seek help. There is nothing wrong with seeking help. If you have a drug problem, you will need to apply the same rules mentioned when handling alcoholism. If you smoke, you want to consider ways to stop. You will need willpower and the goal to quit. If you associate with the wrong people, you will need to evaluate your situation. What do these people bring to your table? Do they give or take from you?
How do you handle problems?
Every day there is some kind of a problem that has to be thought out and decided what to do about the issue. What are some things that you can go to help? You should always think out the problem before you make a decision on the issue. You will make healthier decisions by looking at the entire picture. If the problem is too big for you to handle alone, ask for help. Talk with friends, family, or experts.
How about paying bills:
Do you pay bills on time? Paying bills is a major problem that leads to many hassles. If you pay your bills on time, however, you can reduce some of these hassles. Failing to pay bills only builds stress. You will need to set a budget that works within your means to pay your bills on time. Maybe you can get a better paying job, so you make more money.
There might be sometimes that you are late but you should try to keep up as best as you can this will help take off some stress.
Do you visit your doctor regularly?
Keeping your doctor visits and exercising will help relieve stress. Visiting your doctor regularly will help you keep an eye on your health. Healthy people live a productive life.
What actions do you take to improve your life?
As long as you think things out before you make a decision you will work to improve your personal life. You will also need to take steps to reduce stress, by avoiding harmful actions, such as smoking, drugs, or alcoholism. You can benefit by paying bills on time, visiting your doctor, exercise the mind and body daily and so on.
If you have problems quitting on your own, remember help is available. You have many options, including inpatient services, outpatient services, group support, one-on-one services and more. To learn more about these services go online. You will also find help at local government agencies in your area.
To improve your life you can also volunteer to help someone. You can wrap a gift this year for a homeless or handicapped child.
Quote to live by:
The totality of a record is usually beyond ones’ ability to imagine when you start working on it, but the component parts are, usually, fairly clear one way or another. -Fred Frith
Recommended movie clip to watch:
One of the qualities I loved about Anthony Bourdain was his political lens on every situation – He made every piece of a story so significant and most of all was that he listened and observed and asked questions, including the reason for a specific spice existing in a particular region and how it put that place on the map during colonial times or sometime else.
The creator of The Wire and Treme remembers his years of friendship and collaboration with the late Anthony Bourdain.
If something happens by a twist of fate, it happens by chance, and it is strange, interesting, or unfortunate in some way. >>> In nature, we rarely see straight lines. Organic materials tend to have natural curves to them, a natural movement to their form. Snail shells, like the one pictured below, twist as they grow. The center tip of the spiral — the apex — is composed of the snail’s original, baby shell. I find this to be delightfully symbolic of life itself — the path and process of growth being anything but straight and direct.
This week, show us something that doesn’t maintain a straight line.
“Do you allow yourself to be controlled by coffee? Yes I did. But, I don’t allow my life to be controlled by these 5 things”
Don’t Allow Your Life To Be Controlled By These 5 Things
1. Your Past
2. Other Peoples Opinions
3. Limited Beliefs
A Quote to live by:
1. Your Past-“When you hold on to your history you do so at the expense of your destiny.” ~ T. D. Jakes
2. Other Peoples Opinions-Care about people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner.– Lao Tzu
3. Limited Beliefs-The Second You Limit Yourself Is The Second You Fail
4. Relationships-develop enough mental strength that you get to a point where you don’t need others to make you happy.
5. Money-“Take a better stand. Put money in my mom’s hand. Get my daughter this college plan, so she don’t need no man.”
Speaker: Josiah Ruff
1. Your Past-Release that weight from your back so you can be free. Don’t allow events of the past, which are now gone, to ruin this moment, which is perfect – this moment which is now to enjoy, which is ready for you to LIVE FULLY. Your past does not equal your future.“When you hold on to your history you do so at the expense of your destiny.” ~ T. D. Jakes
2. Other Peoples Opinions-Do not allow other people’s opinions and judgements to control the direction of your life. The need to fit in and feel wanted can cause you to travel down paths you don’t want to travel. People pleasing is a curse that should be avoided at all costs. Before you do anything, ask yourself: Am I doing this because I want to do it?… or because of my fear of judgement from others if I don’t do it.
3. Limited Beliefs- Do not allow your life to be controlled by your own limited beliefs. NOW, a warning with this one. These beliefs may be conscious, but more than likely they will be unconscious. They may be unconscious limitations that have been conditioned from a young age and throughout your entire life, by listening to those around you who never reached for their own dream. When you have nothing inside holding you back, there is nothing outside that can hold you back either. Your entire life will change the very instant you decide to change your mindset. The instant you decide to see everything as a gift. When you DECIDE to see every circumstance and challenge as a blessing rather than a curse. When you become conscious to the fact that everything is as it should be, and fighting WHAT IS, is insane.
4. Relationships-Relationships. A touchy subject. But, if you are always needing another to be happy, to feel complete, then you are always one moment away from a breakdown if that person leaves, or unhappiness if the relationship is not going well.
I am not suggesting to avoid relationships. There is no force on this earth greater than LOVE and connection. I am talking about those who can’t LIVE if they aren’t in a relationship. Those who will be with just about anyone, including all the wrong ones, just to avoid spending a moment being single.
What I AM saying, is to develop enough mental strength that you get to a point where you don’t need others to make you happy. You are just as happy being alone, as you are in a relationship.
5. Money-This is what controls the majority of humans on the planet. Can you guess what it is? …MONEY!
This does not mean you shouldn’t want abundance. It doesn’t mean money is evil. You know as well as I do what great things you can do, and people you can help with money. What this means is, do not allow your decisions to be controlled by money.
If you are choosing something ONLY on the factor of how much money is involved, you’ve just made the wrong decision. What you will find, is that when you follow your heart, and you lead with your intention to SERVE others, to give your best to others – EVERY SINGLE TIME, when you follow your intuition and truly GIVE from your soul – then, the money will come, and it will come in far greater amounts than if you simply chase money for the sake of chasing money.
So, challenge yourself to live the life you want to live. Free from being controlled by ANYTHING. Find your freedom. LIVE FULLY!
Words to live by:
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.- Epicurus
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And it’s so nice not to be angry.
When you assign benevolent motives to people instead of assuming unpleasant motives, the world itself becomes a more benevolent place.
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Your About page is your opportunity to tell the world what you’re all about. You might wonder:
How much should I say? How do I set myself apart from everyone else? What’s my story, my unique angle?
There’s no magic formula for a great About page. Here are 10 effective but very different examples.
Hello! So if we were having a coffee this week, it wouldn’t be an Americano with coleslaw as I thought I heard earlier. Cold milk maybe? This post was going to have a different title but “The I Think I’m Unlucky But In The Grand Scheme Of Things I Realise […]